Friday, January 9, 2009

The Love List...Compatibility

Compatibility is something many people are leaving up to computer programs and questionnaires on dating sites. Just because you have a similar answer to a question does not mean you are meant to be together forever.

Give me old-fashioned compatibility any day. That thing good love stories are made of. Let me find out we like the same movies, can vibe to the same songs and we both hate traffic. The lust of the first look and the awkwardness of the getting-to-know you stage. Butterflies from the first kiss and the anger of hanging in there while he gets rid of the rest. Come on, you know how it's done.

We rely too much on technology to do what we should be doing. The art of conversation and simply walking up to someone and sincerely saying "you are absolutely beautiful" is lost on most people. Actually, I pleasantly surprised a man the other day when I told him that, and politely walked off so he could enjoy his meal :)

Life is full of surprises. Don't overlook that compatibility because you are busy searching for something else...

KayC's Love List:

50. Understands that love comes in many forms
51. Can enjoy a ride down the coast of Cali in a convertible
52. Will hike through the Redwoods with me
53. Has the ability to make me feel sexually comfortable
54. Can speak at least one other language besides English
55. Knows how to pleasantly embarrass and surprise me like this:

KayC's Love List # 1-20
KayC's Love List # 21-30
KayC's Love List # 31-40
KayC's Love List #41-50


  1. Dope

    I love it

    Woman, you are alright with me

    I dont have #52 and 54 :(


  2. old fashion, ill toast to that. hope u don’t mind the drive by, do chk me out one day

    rawdawgbuffalo and if u like what u read, maybe u will come back, even Blog Roll Me

  3. LOVE IT!

    Is Love Jones...The Movie our standard...LOL I think so! LOL!

  4. Eclectik,
    Welcome back! Most people only speak one language, but you wouldn't hike through the Redwoods?

    Welcome to the Storm! I don't mind the drive by. I have read your blog, but right now I am just a lurker there. Will add my voice soon :)

    I was waiting on your comment :) Love Jones is my favorite movie of all time. It might not set the standard, but it gives you a lot to think about.

  5. I just saw Love Jones for the 1st time last year. I had tears in my eyes for the entire movie.

    Compatibility... goes past the face, the body, the voice... it's often overlooked but necessary for the long term. Compatibility is the foundation of late night conversations and stares across a crowded room.

    Oh Sis, I like this post!

  6. The thing that I liked about Love Jones, is the fact that they just kept at. You saw the ugly and the hurt and the mean words and in the end they decided that love was worth distance and compromise.

    I want someone to hang in for the long haul! LOL!

  7. Lovebabz,

    YES! I totally agree. That movie had one of my favorite lines in it.

    "Falling in love ain't shit. Somebody please tell me how to stay there." - Isaiah Washington's character

  8. MsKnowitall,
    What!?! You just saw it last year? Better late than never my sister, lol!

    It was time to focus on this list again, the universe is making me be more specific ;)