Monday, September 29, 2014

Adventures in Online Dating - Single Again

A while ago I promised myself to stop being superficial with my writing so here goes.

Yep, you read that right. I am back on the singles scene. One of the things that happened while I was on blogging hiatus was the ending of the relationship with Theo. It was pleasant split (in the end) and I once again learned that I need to follow that small voice inside you. I had reservations at the start. There were questions of maturity and such things that made me realize I was not his wife.

He was happy but I was not. I was not happy and I knew there was no way I could be happy in that relationship, for a variety of reasons. As more pressure to marry and cohabitate was put on me daily I felt like someone was pushing me into a corner. Yeah, you read that right. The woman in the relationship literally had a slight panic attack at the counter looking at rings. I could not get myself into another marriage that was not fulfilling, not supportive nor emotionally balanced as I gave too much and received too little.

But, all of that happened a while ago and I have now been talked into online dating. I thought about it and said "sure, why not." My main reason was/is to meet someone who is not in my social circle. People think my city is large but in reality it is not. If you went to high school and college here, chances are there is only one or two degrees of separation between you (or your girls) and that new guy you met while hanging out. And I refuse to have my partner have a "past" with anyone I know socially. The last thing I want to happen is to have one of sorority sisters try to "compare notes" with me at a function because she "knows" the guy who is currently trying to fill my life partner position. And yes, that has happened before which knocked him right out of the running.

I also refuse to deal with the crap that comes from your guy having a past with every woman on the dance floor because he uses dance as his dating pool. There is also the "secret relationships" on the dance floor with the married folk and their side pieces while their public partners are usually none the wiser. Yep, been there as well.

So, here I am. A woman of a certain age, trying something new.

There will be stories, trust me.

Until Next Time,
Peace & Blessings...

Monday, September 8, 2014

Nothing Constant in Life...

About a year ago I took a lateral move at work in hopes of upward mobility later. I lost a few perks with the move (a few that I can not get back) but my main focus was to be make myself more marketable if I need to relocate or find another position with another company. The position was a total career change and it really took some time to adjust. It has been about a year and there is now some restructuring in my department which means yours truly is being moved into another position.

Just as I was starting to get my footing in my current position I am being moved. I was hesitant about my last move but I knew that I needed this position to round out my career background. This new move will also put a major point on my board but I know it will be difficult. During the last year I was exhausted every day and there was very little in my life outside of work. I just did not have the energy after a long day at work. I loved the weekends because it meant I could just relax. I was just getting to a place where I was starting to have energy again but....

there is nothing constant in life except change.

Until Next Time,
Peace & Blessings...

Monday, September 1, 2014

Beautiful In Every Shade

Hello blog family. It has been a while, I know. Life is still going and the world is still spinning. Many things have changed and I promise to blog about them all. will NEVER be what you think it should be.

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Change is the only constant.

For now, I will leave you with this. I attended a book festival and had the pleasure of participating in this project. I can't wait to see if I end up on a poster. Ha!

But for real, I love projects that try to get people to be comfortable in their skin. Now being comfortable in front of a camera? Not so much...

Until Next Time,
Peace & Blessings...