Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Adventures in Online Dating - Why Lie?

Installment #3 in this series. You can check out installment one and installment two if you wish to do so.

I have dance listed on my profile as something I enjoy doing in my spare time. I thought it was interesting when an older man contacted me and said he also loved to dance. He mentioned that he danced ballroom competitively and he was looking forward to learning Argentine Tango. Right up my alley, right? I replied to his email and it went something like this:

Me: I see you like to dance Salsa and listen to it often. What artists are on your playlist?

Him: ...I don't really have a "list." I like all kinds...a lot of what is played at the clubs though...I do enjoy Gypsy Kings, Santana, Marc Anthony, etc.

I know my way around the Salsa/Bachata/Cha Cha/Etc. scene…..Learning Argentine Tango is on my wish list….ideally I'd learn it with my life partner and love. What kind of dancing do you perform?

Me: O_O *crickets* 

Okay, let me break this down. As someone who "dances salsa on a regular basis" he would have a list of artists that he likes. Especially if he dances Salsa competitively. How do you dance as serious as he proclaims and not know who you are dancing to?

Strike One....

The next thing is the artists he listed. Even in the mainstream clubs they would NEVER play Santana nor Gypsy Kings risk having the dance floor clear out. You might get one or two Marc Anthony songs but those are rare. Clearly this was either someone pretending with a fake account or someone lying about what they like to do. Why lie? Did he really think I would fall for that? Hell, I even listed an artist that I like in my profile. Why not google them and see what pops up? Geesh....

Strike Two....

And for lying about it...Strike Three....

Moving on....

There are good exchanges but the bad ones make for good reading :-) Stay tuned, I am sure there is still more to come

Until Next Time,
Peace & Blessings...


  1. Good for you doing your due diligence! Your gut will tell you when someone is full of shit! I appreciate your online dating journey! Stay encouraged!

    1. It makes for great blogging but people are just...interesting...and shallow. Yes, I'm doing my due diligence and making sure I follow my gut. It rarely steers me wrong (when I listen to it).