Monday, May 10, 2010

Let's Hear It For the Boys

I have few friends in life. Do not get me wrong, my life is rich with great relationships but the word friend carries a strong meaning for me. My friends are my chosen family. They are with me through thick and thin and allow me to be me...whoever that is at the moment. Because of this it is very difficult to make it to friendship status with me but once you are there, you are always there.

My oldest and dearest friend came to visit for the first time in 3 years. We have been friends since my very first day of ninth grade. When I walked into a new school and sat down in home room. He was sitting next to me and introduced himself. He immediately gave me a was KayC. Guess it stuck :)

This was us almost 20 years ago:

We've been friends through marriages, births, deaths and divorces. He has been there with me since before I had real curves and was comfortable in my skin. We have seen each other at our worst and confessed things to each other most people would rather take to their grave. He is my brother from another mother, my twin from another womb. Over the years we can still smile together like this:

When meeting MoA (which was totally coincidental) he explained that he was one part of Martin and Will in Bad Boys. The gun toting big brothers at the front door. MoA, being the man he is, seemed to take it all in stride. Guess it helped that it was the end of his night and he had finished performing and packing up instruments and equipment. Even exhausted he looked great and I'm keeping that photo to myself :)

Over the weekend we hung out (hard) with the third member of the crew, drank way too much, laughed way too loud and shut down more than one spot. They gave me insight on this new dating game (my Addiction included) and sized up everyone who wanted to approach me. (Of course no one did hanging with those two)

It was just what the doctor ordered after nursing an injury that is keeping me off the Salsa dance floor and dealing with this thing called Life. They gave me insight and I provided insight on women (as much as I could). Sometimes it is just the pick me up you need when you are with people who know you, get you and still love you without any of the intimate relationship gunk getting in the way.

Cheering on my men...let's hear it for the boys!

Love you guys.

Until Next Time,
Peace & Blessings...


  1. I think you made a good point. For me, my friends are people who have been there and and seen me at my best and my worst... and still stick with me. That's a friend to me.

    Glad you got to see your friend this weekend.

  2. Great friendships are hard to find and when you have them cherish it. I also have a friend of the opposite sex for about 21yrs to be exact. We are still very close and yes it great not to add any intmacy junk as u say to it. It is one friend ship that will truely last of ever. R.I.P to Kris & Smoot yall will never be replace and shout out to Latoya Peace who has always been there. Great Post!

  3. Great friends are hard to come by, that is definitely why the good ones are worth holding on to.

    I'm glad God placed your friend back in your path when you needed him most.

  4. I really really enjoyed this post. It speaks volumes on two or three true female friends that have somehow remained in my life.

    I often tell them how important and what they truly mean to me as a man, and still I am not sure if I was able to get my point across.

    You said it best: whenever a man and woman are able to take off the gloves and sit and have a real talk about Life ... the effects can and, as you have shown, will last an entire lifetime.

    At least that is where I am hopeful.

    Good stuff, Kay C.

  5. Great and true friends are so hard to come by and hold on to, so you are truly blessed to have someone in your corner.

    Glad you had a good time with your friend.

    Cheers to good times!

  6. Everyone,
    Yes, a great time was had by all and it was great to catch up and see my fellas again.

    Not sure exactly what you mean but I would not place my 20 years of friendship on the line to pursue a relationship with either of my fellas. They are special to me beyond a physical intimacy. They are my chosen family and I would rather cherish their friendship and the relationships we have, keeping them in my life for a lifetime than to go through a few weeks/months/years of a relationship and risk losing either of them.

  7. now u got me wanting to call my boy over.. friends are better than chicken noodle soup and cocoa on a cold day

  8. Friends that you want to hang on to are hard to come by. I haven't made a new friend in almost 10 years and I am trying to broaden my horizon to new people. It's never too late to meet a lifelong friend.

  9. I had a very close friend from my freshman year in college until I finished grad school. We lost touch when I started dating the man that is now my husband. I ran into my friend again in a cousin's wedding. It was kind of awkward at that point. Boy do I miss the conversations we used to have, the laughs- the fun in general. A few friends and I often talk about how men still have female friends, but for some reason we felt that when we met Mr. Right we needed to cut our male friends off like it was going to be a problem when really it wasn't! I agree with 25champ, great friendships-male or female are hard to find!