Denying/Hiding Children Makes Your More Marketable?!?

I have come across many....interesting....situations since I have become a social salsa dancer. Salsa dancing allows me to meet people from many different walks of life that I may not have met in my regular routine. One situation that is really common in salsa dancing is people trying to make themselves more marketable to other sex. By any means necessary.

This goes beyond the men in three piece suits sweating likes hogs to look good and portray they have money and it goes beyond the women squeezing themselves into painted on dresses with their cottage cheese hanging out and ankles screaming from the 6 inch heels while trying to dance.

But hiding the fact that you have a child or children? Let that sink in for a moment.

I mean people are only posting photos of themselves in suggestive poses or photos with their 'peeps' while hanging out. Never a "Happy Birthday" post to the child or a mention that they are someone's parent. I am referring to people finding out their salsa friends are parents like 5 years after knowing them. Why? Apparently it makes them more 'marketable' to the dating pool. Yes, I have actually heard someone say that. I have overheard people saying "XYZ has a child but doesn't want anyone to know." It makes them more marketable.

My question is does denying or hiding a child really make that person more marketable? I know my views on many relationship issues appear to be old-fashioned but at what point do they reveal they have offspring and/or a mini-me at home? After they have tricked someone lied to someone and eventually get caught what are their reasons? Anyone who lies (that is what hiding children is, right?) about their own flesh and blood will lie about anything. How can you build any kind of relationship with someone who can keep that kind of thing a secret? Maybe it is because of my own upbringing but lying about children is the lowest of low (in my opinion) and you don't deserve to be anyone's parent!

By now I know many of you reading this think I am bashing men, right? Well, surprise!

Many, if not all, of the people I am referring to are WOMEN!

Let that sink in....go ahead I'll wait.




Until Next Time,

Peace & Blessings...

Birthday/End of Year Reflections 2012

I missed my birthday reflections this year. There was/is so much going on that I have to deal with. I am still in the middle of much needed soul searching. I have been told that I can see flaws in anything and I can tell you 1,001 ways how something will go. That may be great in my business life but in my personal life it causes me to be a introvert and take the safe way out. Taking the safe way is not always the best way.

There were a few deaths around my birthday that made the day very somber. I find myself looking back on my life and not liking where I am right now. I want so much more and can not seem to find a way through the muck to get my footing. I do not like where my life is right now career-wise so I must find a way to change it. I must find a way to make my life make sense to me again because right now, it does not. I am thankful for how far I have come but I feel I have so much more to do.

I did not have a party this year. I went to the beach for a much needed change of scenery and it was okay but I wish I could have stayed a lot longer. The beach is so calming for me. Maybe because it brings back good childhood memories? This beach photo is similar to one on my vision board. I think I did almost everything on my vision board this year so maybe I need to be more specific on my next vision board.

I have been asked if the photos from my weekend are my own. Yes, I took them with my old point and shoot Nikon. Maybe I should look into digital photography.

I am open to any resources the blog family may recommend on helping on the career path. I must make a move in 2013. I have wasted way too much time.


Until Next Time,

Peace & Blessings...

Random Thunderstorms....(Once Again)

I have decided (once again) that I will give only solicited advice and try my best (once again) to not get offended, become upset or get annoyed when the person asked for said advice does not follow it. I have lost count on the number of times I have listened to the same conversation from friends who are in the same situation but refuse to do anything different. What is the definition of insanity again?

I applied for the job. The one I mentioned before which was a lateral move in pay but demotion in benefits. Why? to challenge myself and broaden my skill set. I made up my mind that the new position would make it much easier in the future to make more money and find another job (if need be) while increasing my quality of life. What happened? I interviewed well with the HR Director and staff only to find out the position is no longer available. The lady who currently holds it can not retire right now due to changes in policy and I (once again) was the front-runner by far but (once again) am still in my current position. I am stuck (once again) working evenings, weekends and holidays at will!

I don't know if it was being so close to having a new job or the current position itself but KayC is in a funk. I could easily call out each day this week and stay home and do absolutely nothing. I have some time during the Thanksgiving holiday but (once again) I find myself in a budgeting crunch and refusing to over spend. 

On a more positive note....I have 2 credit cards left with balances and I see the light at the end of the tunnel with finally ridding myself of the marital debt I inherited through the divorce. I will be so elated to pay off the final card and will not ever get into more credit card debt. If you want a life with me, all bank statements, credit reports and background checks must be presented! You think that's wrong? Then cohabitate forever but once you enter into a legally binding contract (which is what a marriage license is, after all you do file it at the court house people!) all of your debt becomes OUR debt. Been there, done that and I will NOT do that once again!

Until Next Time,

Peace & Blessings...